I’m Not Going To Lose

Mindset is a crucial and often overlooked element in your personal safety. It’s a topic we focus on a lot in RWC training. You can have a high skill level but without the right mindset for real world violence, you will get your arse kicked… or worse!

I’ve seen more than one fellow bouncer get ‘owned’ by somebody because they had a weak mindset. I’m talking about guys who are over 6 foot tall and had extensive martial arts or ‘combatives‘ type training. They were fine when things were going fine. However, when things went wrong and they actually copped a hit, they froze and didn’t react at all – this behavioural tendency is extremely dangerous.

Now there’s a lot to be said for learning to take a punch in your training, but even boxers, kickboxers and mma fighters can fall apart when overwhelmed… if they haven’t adopted a strong mindset. Mind you, a combat sports athlete usually has months to prepare for a fight.

Real world violence almost always happens when you least expect it. That’s how predatorial behaviour works; they don’t want a fair fight. They want to get you by suprise and ensure a ‘win.’ That’s one reason why UFC is not real fighting.
(Click on that link to read my article that talks more about this)

I’M NOT GOING TO LOSE – is my personal mindset in a violent encounter and is also my mindset for life in general. And yes the statement is all in capitals on purpose because the thought in my head is loud… to the point of shouting. You could say, it is my personal battle cry.

You should absolutely have a plan but things almost never go according to plan; whether it’s your career, business, marriage, and especially in a real world violent encounter. To have no preparation or plan is foolish, but what happens when things do not go according to plan?

What are you going to do when things go pear shaped? 

How can you be prepared to act when things go wrong, if you don’t know what will go wrong?

One important aspect is developing multiple skill sets applicable to various scenarios that may arise. For personal safety and dealing with real world violence, honing your various RWC skills (e.g. strikes, restraints, takedowns, breaks, ground defence) is vital.

In our more advanced RWC levels, you learn unarmed defence against weapons and how to effectively use certain weapons to protect yourself (e.g. blades, bats, guns). If you are legally permitted to carry a gun for self protection where you live, it is also a MUST for you to undertake proper tactical firearm training – normal range time is not sufficient.

The other aspect, which is most often overlooked, you need to prepare your mindset for the unexpected. Real world violence is messy, brutal and dirty. It is chaos! It doesn’t look pretty and things almost always go ‘wrong.’ How do you prepare for this? – you build resilience into your character; the ability to adapt and overcome in any scenario. For some, it can be a lot easier said than done to accomplish this.

Depending on your upbringing and life experiences, you may already have a good degree of general resilience. The exciting news is, even if you currently see yourself with low resilience – with the right approach, anybody can develop a strong mindset. I spend a good amount of time on this in our RWC curriculumn.

Set The Right Framework For Your Mind To Succeed.

Although it may require more direct effort for you to develop a strong mindset for real world violence, for now, I encourage you to take on my personal battle cry as your own – “I’M NOT GOING TO LOSE.” I love it because it sets the right framework for my mind to operate in any situation. If you prefer, invent your own variation of this, but in the same spirit of not accepting defeat or failure.

And make sure you are training smart

See that? I didn’t say, “train hard.” Although it goes without saying that you still need to train hard. The point is, practice doesn’t make perfect, practice makes permanent. So make sure you are practicing skills that are based on how real world violence works and not ancient traditions or sporting competition rules. Otherwise you may be in for a rude shock when you have to deal with a real violent attack.

An extended version of my opening statement is, “I don’t know how I’m going to win, I just know I’m not going to lose.” I was not the originator of this extended version (no idea who was) but it does add depth to my long-held mindset of “I’M NOT GOING TO LOSE.”

Now, go find yourself a mirror – Look into it and tell yourself, “I’M NOT GOING TO LOSE.” Keep telling yourself that, until you believe it.

Let’s refuse to lose, even when we have no idea how we’re going to win. 

Have an awesome day!

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